We Were In Your Shoes
We know that looking for home care can be stressful. Some conversations can be difficult when considering the needs of yourself or your senior loved one. How do we know? We lived it ourselves.
We have been in your shoes, and have had to look for help in providing care to our loved ones too. Rest assured, we understand the emotions you may be feeling, and you have our full attention in every interaction you have with us. We encourage you to reach out and speak to us directly about how Right at Home of Central New Jersey can help you.
Below are some of our personal stories. We hope you find comfort knowing that we were in your shoes, and that we are here to serve you.
By Paul, Right at Home Central New Jersey
Growing up I lived with my grandparents who had a big impact in my life. When my grandfather passed away about 10 years ago it was truly a loss that changed the lives of many people including the love of his life my grandmother. I saw my grandmother hurt and try to continue to live life alone without her partner and best friend. There are so many people that have to go through this in life as they get older, and not everyone has a family or support system to help ease that pain.
As I see my grandmother getting older and facing obstacles that most seniors do, I worry about her being alone and taken care of.
By Jennifer, Right at Home Central New Jersey
When I was 10 my grandmother had a brain aneurysm, while she was lucky enough to recover she was never quiet the same. Over the years she had a series of strokes, dementia and eventually became bed bound. I remember the struggle my mother faced finding the right care to keep my grandma other in our home. Her dementia often made her combative and afraid of nurses and caregivers because she would relive her past experience as a hostage at a bank robbery in which she was badly slashed and left for dead. Finding the right care was so important to keeping her end of life dignified and helping our family cope with the challenges of her illness. This is my why, this is why I decided to work in healthcare.
By Karen, Right at Home Central New Jersey
My family and I experienced the challenging and very confusing landscape of finding care for my 83 year old father in law, a wonderful and proud 20 year Navy veteran. He was recovering from surgery and for an entire summer he went in and out of the hospital, off to rehab and then back home, only to go back to the hospital in what seemed like a never ending chaotic loop. His health was declining, my in-laws were both getting frustrated and our family was receiving conflicting information and advice. We witnessed his pain and their frustration dealing with the magnitude of facing a future that in no way was meeting their needs or their preferences.
Working at Right at Home allows me to be of service to those in our community who have the greatest need, at a time when they are at their most vulnerable. It is my privilege to help them navigate their path to best serve their individual wishes.
My Father Ray
My father, Ray, was force of nature. He was that person to make everyone laugh and bring people together. He suffered from severe untreated anxiety and panic all his life which led to most of his health related issues.
At a young age I knew I wanted to be involved in some sort of healthcare as I got older, primarily because of my dad and his affinity for science. He loved teaching High School Biology for most of his adult life; however, there was interim he took over his father’s cutlery grinding business after his death. Knives and my dad did not mix. I was forever bandaging him up most of my childhood since my Mom and sister had weak stomachs. I was his go to girl for all his cuts, bruises, aches and pains.
Joann's Father Ray
My love of science and taking care of people led me to pursue my path in Healthcare. Over the years my dad’s health issues changed drastically from high blood pressure to misdiagnosed illnesses. Towards the end of his life my father suffered greatly with severe back and muscle pain. After failed surgeries, attempts at pain management, countless specialists and a misdiagnosis of Parkinson’s disease my father’s health deteriorated.
I unfortunately, have been in a Right at Home clients’ shoes; however, I am fortunate to be part of a team that assist and care for families that do not chose to be a situation like mine. No one wants to see a family member struggle with their health but, if need be we all have the option to reach out for help especially with a company whose sole purpose is to put their Right at Home “family” first.
By Brian Hentz, Director of Business Development Right at Home Central New Jersey
A few years ago, my father, now 70, was diagnosed with early onset Alzheimer’s. His grandfather also suffered with the disease. So, we knew that there was a chance that it would reappear, eventually, in our family. It was a scary realization at the time, that he would inevitably begin to lose his faculties and that his memories would fade. We are fortunate enough to have my mother, a Nurse Practitioner, in the family, to have him seen by some of the best doctors, but it is no secret that a cure does not currently exist.
Like many families, the COVID-19 pandemic has affected us greatly. My parents had moved down to Florida, from New Jersey, shortly after his diagnosis, leaving me behind to continue on my own path. While I had originally planned to visit frequently, travel restrictions have severely limited those opportunities. It had been a full year, the longest time we have ever gone without seeing each other, since I had last been down to be with them for the holidays.
The distance was hard on me, but even more difficult for my father. He makes light of the situation by joking that he may not remember me the next time I come to visit. I would notice some things. He seemed more withdrawn than his usual outgoing personality. He was too timid to tell his ice-breaking jokes to strangers anymore. He appeared to get very flustered and visibly uncomfortable when pressured to complete, what most would consider, a simple task.
Let me tell you my story….
By Ellen Burke, Director of Client Satisfaction
My goal in my work is to make sure that every client is getting the care they need and that both the client and their family members are not just satisfied but happy with the service that we are providing. I do that because I believe in the guiding principle that Beth has established for her business: “we care for your family as we would care for our own”. Beth’s goal is to exceed our client and their family members expectations every day!
I know that’s true because I have been where you are! Before I was blessed to work for Right at Home of Central New Jersey, I was a client.
Ellen Burke's Mother
About 10 years ago my dad who was a relatively healthy 83 year old got dizzy one day, went to the hospital and tests revealed a myriad of conditions that were intimidating. A lifetime of smoking had finally caught up to him. After his initial stay in the hospital, he was so weak that he needed to go to a rehab facility to get his strength back and be able to walk on his own again.
A few weeks into his long stay, the social worker approached us and said that in planning his discharge they strongly recommended that we get in-home care for him. My mother insisted she could do it but I knew that as someone in her 70s, she wouldn’t physically be able to manage a lot of the care my dad would need. We asked the social worker to recommend some homecare companies to us and they gave us several candidates. One of them was Right at Home of Central New Jersey.
My Father and His Driving Test
By Hali Figueroa, Director of Client Care
I was able to take some time to spend with my father on one of the most important days of his life. He was summoned by letter to appear to take his driver re-examination tests (both written and road).
The drive to the New Jersey Department of Motor Vehicles, whether you are 17 or in your 70s, is always a nerve-wracking experience. In your 70s it is more so because you are fighting to keep the independence that you have had for over half of a century! The standing in line to wait to take the test is grueling. Watching the others that have gone before you pass or fail leaves you imagining what your results will be in end.
Hali Figueroa's Father
I watched my father struggle a bit with the vision test but he finally got through that step and was given a testing cubicle. As I left the testing room I saw another man peering over to look at an elderly gentleman who was in the process of taking the written test. I asked him if it was his father. He informed me the man was his client and that he was the driving instructor. He then shared that he hoped the gentleman would pass the tests so that he and his wife of 73 years could continue their weekly trips to the grocery store, doctor offices and so forth.
We both paced the hallways, hoping for the best results. It was a thumbs up on the first round for his client and for my father as well!
By Beth Sholom, Owner of Right at Home Central New Jersey
Through grammar school, the service, weddings, children, grandchildren and great grandchildren. Through life’s ups and downs - friends for over 85 years!
Can you imagine saying goodbye?
The smiles, the laughter, the milestone occasions, the pain, the sorrow and sadness all shared by these wonderful men for over eight decades.
This is the story of my Dad and his friends; they just lost one of their crew! How lucky and blessed they have been to have each other through thick and thin.
Beth Sholom's Father with Friends
It is heartbreaking, lump in your throat, not able to speak, quivering lip, reverberating pain in my head to hear this news. Me, owner of a home care company who tries to give people the best quality of life in their twilight years!
That Girl Was Me...
By Catherine Zalewski, Client Care Coordinator & Executive Home Health Aide
My name is Catherine. Let me tell you my story…Imagine a healthy girl suffering the debilitating effects of a stroke: re-learning how to walk, talk and put on her clothes by herself. All of the things she once knew how to do with her eyes closed, seemingly lost within her brain. Imagine her finding out that she had a hole in her heart that she never knew about, and had it surgically repaired only to suffer another stroke.
That girl was me.
At age 28, I suffered my first stroke. I really do not like even using the term “suffered”; I prefer to say that I survived! I do not want anyone to feel sorry for me because I certainly felt sorry enough for myself while I was recovering and undergoing my therapies.
Catherine and Family
I spent months at JFK Rehabilitation Center, retraining my brain to do all of the things I once did without even thinking. I distinctly remember having an alarm placed underneath me as I laid in the hospital bed with the words “fall risk” written just about everywhere in the room. I remember having to take a shower with an aide because I was a “fall risk.”